One of the most commonly believed misconceptions is that we are supposed to be happy, all the time. We think that sadness is something that needs to be cured, as if it was a disease. Many of us strive to live a life free from judgment, yet we harshly judge one emotional state over another.
Feeling sad, angry, or even just plain bored are perfectly acceptable states of being. If you feel sad, be with the sadness without judging it as negative. It isn't negative unless you think it is. It's simply a reaction to life. Trust life to take you where you are meant to be.
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I could not agree with you more, Shen. It's also super to have you back :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Desiree... it's good to be back. I think I am making some headway in understanding why I've been avoiding writing for the last few months. It's obvious, really, but like so many things, I was too close to it to see it.
ReplyDeleteLooking forward to hearing from you as you are able. My friend was sad because a sad thing happened in her life. She started to apologize. I assured her that it was perfectly ok to be sad. Hardest thing growing up was not only was I not allowed to be sad, I couldn't be too happy either. Systematically stripping away a child's emotions has devastating consequences. Learning about emotions now is sometimes overwhelming. I like your idea that sad is not bad. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to your description of "stripping away a child's emotions". I've gone through a great deal of work in order to learn how to cry, and how to be angry. From that, it's a few more steps to learning when it's okay and appropriate to express these emotions... and then a few steps beyond that to discovering that just because we can't express feelings in every situation, it doesn't mean the feelings themselves are bad. Feelings are good. I'm grateful for the tears, even today on this very rainy Tuesday while I'm in the midst of it.
ReplyDeleteSo glad to hear from you Ruth
HI SHEN - happy to see you :-) and no matter what state of mind you are in I am with you on this jiourney. COme visit me, k?
ReplyDeleteLove Gail
peace.....
Very true. And judging that the judge is bad gets us into some awful knots I think.
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