This is a really good talk on vulnerability and why it is at the core of what we (all of us who are trying to find ourselves, who are in therapy, who are dealing with life from a point of view of reality) struggle with.
Brene' Brown on Vulnerability
Especially intereresting to me was the part about numbing. We can't numb out the pain without also numbing out the joy. That's the crux of it. If you have twenty minutes, this Brene' Brown is very funny and serious and has a message I believe we all need to hear (a few times).